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Dating with Diabetes

July 21, 2014

1. This date is a one and only event. There were other pieces of the conversation that made me realize I had no need to get to further know this person. We were talking about traveling. We had briefly talked about diabetes before, and I had already checked my Dexcom and bolused for my food. I mentioned how I went to a conference with a friend last summer, and that I’m going back this summer. He asked what kind of conference it was, and I said it was for people with diabetes. I couldn’t go into how important it was to me, because I wanted to focus on all the other aspects of my life.  He asked me how old I was when I was diagnosed and I told him I was three. He responded with “How many people are born with it like you?” I was dumbfounded at the difference in three years. I know that I was little, but I also remember being in the hospital. I responded with “well I don’t know anyone who was born with diabetes, but a lot of people got it around the same age as me.” I have no idea how we transitioned to another subject, but I was very glad we did.

The person who helps me through all of my diabetes & dating freakouts. Seriously.

The person who helps me through all of my diabetes & dating freakouts. Seriously.

2. It was a second date, and he was already aware that I have type 1 diabetes. We hadn’t actually talked about it though. We were bowling and he asked what the string was. I had to think for a second, because I thought I had tucked all my tubing in, but apparently I hadn’t. I explained that it was the insulin pump and I got an “okay.” It was pretty amazing. He went on to say that one of his grandparents had type 2 diabetes and I prepared myself for a horror story, but instead he said “I think that’s different than your type? Can you explain it to me? I’ve tried to research it, but nothing is clear.” Can someone knoweldgeable please make an information sheet so that others who want to know this can find it? It may help diminsh the misconceptions that live in this world. I explained briefly how I understand the difference: type 1 is when your body stops producing insulin and type 2 is when your body doesn’t use the insulin properly. We talked a little bit more about shots vs. pump, advances in medical technology, BG tests and how long I’ve been living with it. There was no mention of a CGM because I was in the middle of a brief Dexcom break.

3. I thought this guy was nice. We had similar interests and even though I didn’t know all that much about him, there was nothing apparent to make me think I shouldn’t try to get to know him. I mentioned that I have diabetes and told me that it creeped him out. There are so many things I should’ve said, instead I just sat there with my chin on the floor and trying to stop the conversation as soon as possible. Yes, I could’ve educated. Instead I protected my heart & fear that diabetes could get in the way of a relationship (also realizing that if it did, this would not be a relationship I should be in).

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7 Comments leave one →
  1. July 21, 2014 2:38 PM

    Hi– from IDF, here’s a decent primer on the differences between types:
    http://www.idf.org/about-diabetes

    Hope it gets easier.

  2. Katy permalink
    July 21, 2014 10:43 PM

    You knew when to just move away (immediately) from bachelor #3. He sounds like such a dud.

    I like your dating stories!

  3. July 22, 2014 9:49 AM

    I’m with ya sistah! My #3 actually told me he can’t handle “sick people”. He was already a jerk before this moment but I left the restaurant in tears. Such a long time ago and yet I remember the moment like it was yesterday.

  4. July 22, 2014 9:58 AM

    I’d like to punch #3 in the shins for you.

  5. July 22, 2014 10:12 AM

    Can I come kick #3 where it counts? And then have Pete give him a black eye?? Because HE creeps ME out!

  6. July 25, 2014 5:10 PM

    #3 can totally suck it!
    Briley, You deserve so much better and I’m glad you know that #3 was not “the one,” but I still want to punch his lights out on your behalf.
    Also: You are out of his league on every level and while there’s no cure for diabetes, there’s no cure for creepy idiot, either. I’ll take diabetes over creepy idiot any day.
    You protected your heart and did what did what you had to, but please don’t let creepy #3 mess with your confidence because you are amazing.

    I have a few links re: dating& diabetes & I hope it’s Ok to share them.
    http://diabetesaliciousness.blogspot.com/search/label/dating%20and%20diabetes
    http://www.accu-chekdiabeteslink.com/a-counterpointtalking-about-diabetes-on-the-first-date.html

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