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Not Blurring the Line

August 8, 2011

In case you haven’t figured it out, I’m a fan of social media.  I’ve been on Facebook since my freshman year of college.  And I jumped on the myspace bandwagon for a while.  And Livejournal.  And I even had a different blog (not dedicated to diabetes) before this one.  And sharing pictures?  Well I’ve always been a fan of that.  And twitter.  I was against it for so long, but then when you realize it can do all of this (and more), well I became a fan and I’ve met so many great friends.  Even if I’ve only met two of them.

I can go to twitter and vent about diabetes any time day or night and know that someone will be there.  That’s the awesome part of an international dialogue.  Someone is always awake.  But it goes beyond that, there are a few people who I dearly call my friends.  Who I can talk to about so much more than diabetes.  Who are there to support me when I’m feeling down, and to laugh at me when I make stupid mistakes.  These are the people who I’m Facebook friends with.  Whose phone numbers I have.  Who have my address.  And I like it, and enjoy every minute of it.  When I see new friend requests on Facebook, I don’t know what to do.  But this is the thing.  If I don’t hold legitimate conversations with you, don’t come to you for non-D advice, don’t talk to you multiple times in a week, then I’m probably not going to accept you as my Facebook friend.

It doesn’t mean I don’t like you.  Not in the slightest.  It’s just that Facebook has my whole life in it.  And twitter and the blog have my diabetes life.  There is just something about blurring that line that makes me nervous, and right now, I’m trying to keep it as clear as possible.  How have other people dealt with this line, and what have the consequences (positive OR negative) been?

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  1. August 8, 2011 7:09 AM

    Great post, great questions. I know a few people who have a separate facebook account to keep things clear, but it seems like a headache to me. Although, on that same note, having all of my personal AND diabetes stuff together on facebook is also sometimes a headache.

    Long way of saying “I don’t know”… 🙂

  2. Katie permalink
    August 8, 2011 7:23 AM

    I totally get it. I have very few facebook friends I don’t know in real life. Facebook seems a lot more personal.

  3. August 8, 2011 1:29 PM

    Totally hear you, Briley. Have many of the same concerns on this end.

    We’re so plugged in, and seems so connected – I find it tough not blurring the lines and really struggle sometimes not blurring lines between all my worlds. The most solid is my work, something I don’t write about and just don’t befriend work-people personally because I don’t want to blur them. That is tough, when telling them that too.

    But, so are the times we live.

    So, overall I don’t know… But let me post a Facebook status and ask my “friends,” and I’ll DM a Tweet when I get an answer. 🙂

  4. July 5, 2013 7:27 AM

    Reblogged this on inDpendence and commented:

    I just want people to know that I’m not going to be the one saying “find me on facebook!” next week. It doesn’t mean I don’t like you, it just means that I keep my facebook as private as possible. If you want to find me on facebook, you can like my blog page! I know it’s not the same thing, but I set it up for just that reason.

    • July 10, 2013 4:47 PM

      I recently started blogging, and I feel the same way. Unless I have met you in person, we4 have a true friend relationship (like, you send me a birthday card every year, know the real names of my family members, etc) and I feel I know and trust you, I won’t befriend you on my personal Facebook account. I love all the DOC, don’t get me wrong, but privacy is still privacy, and you never know if a friend of a friend of someone you really don’t know is reading and seeing your stuff on FB.

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